Today is day three of our journey in feminine dress. So many wonderful things have surfaced and some convictions also. First I would like to share some quotes from my eldest:
~ I always liked pants better because I thought it would be hard to wear skirts and still have fun but its really not hard at all. I don't even remember that I am wearing them.~
~Mommy, wearing these clothes I think makes me want to do more girl things like help you cook and pretend to be a mommy.~
~ Twirling and dancing is much more fun feeling with a dress swishing around my legs.~
Only three days in and I already see the "blessings" that God has brought to our family!
And now for the raw lesson Mommy learned:
A comment was left on my last post by Richele ... "My husband is rare in that he prefers me in short hair. I actually cut it to honor him though I try to make it as feminine as possible." I wanted to mention this because this is truly the heart of a wife... our bodies are not our own.
This sparked conviction in my heart. When I first met my husband I was fourteen years old and really no different than any of the other teenage girls. The friendship that I formed with him began to change me. I grew my hair out, began to wear more feminine clothing and started observing other women who were serving their husbands.
Somewhere along the way after we married I "forgot" what being a lady and more importantly a wife was... perhaps it was that hard year in our marriage that I started doing my own thing and focusing on "me." In my situation I cut my hair (which was what I wanted) I wore those name brand jeans and baby tee's that "I" wanted. I honestly stopped caring what my husband thought or wanted. Oh what had I become?
It has not been until recently that I realized something in my life needed to change, I began searching and prayerfully making changes in my life and my marriage. Last night was the first time that I really acknowledged to my husband and myself how off track I was and I asked for forgiveness. My husband shared his own thoughts regarding my change of heart. I want to be the woman God has created me to be- Trinity Daddy's Woman! (1 Corinthians 11:9)
I want to wear my hair, my clothes, etc the way that he likes. God created me to be his wife... my body is his! (1Corinthians 7:4) The difficulty comes when I don't surround myself with the friends that I should who would sharpen me as in Proverbs 27:17 and encourage. These type of friends seem to be few and I begin to find myself being pulled back to the "me" focused person that my carnal nature is.
This brings me to the how.. how am I to keep from digressing? How am I to be the woman that God has called me to be? How am I to be the wife that God has called me to be?
Pray, Pray, Pray (1 Thess 5:17)
and surround myself with those special friends to encourage, sharpen and inspire!