Monday, June 21, 2010

Detox Your Parenting Style!

Detox your parenting style!

What? Is she really going to talk about detoxing our parenting? WOW! Yup, you never know what the topic may be next!

OK so I have noticed and so have many of my friends that people are raising scared and wimpy kids these days! There are books related to the subject.. here is a quote from one such book,

evidence suggests that parental invasiveness and over involvement are crippling children psychologically. Nor is such behavior good for parents. And it's definitely not good for the future of the country, which requires adaptability to uncertainty. In making life easier for their kids in the short term, adults are making it harder for them in the long term. In addition, they are depriving their children of meaning and a shot at deep satisfaction”.

Fear has been a friend of mine for so long ESPECIALLY in raising my children. I often had a hard time letting them play outside in our backyard without feeling like I needed to be outside also. Its time for this momma to change! I need to give a little more freedom to my children.. I found this amazing site called Free Range Kids and it has been VERY inspiring! They also have a book out that is on my wish list for my next Kindle purchase!!

This personal growth journey has lead me to reevaluating our parenting style.. what are my fears? What are my long term goals and intentions for my children and what am I doing to assist them in reaching these goals? I encourage you all to sit down and re-evaluate the way that you are parenting and your intentions for your family!

Here are some of the things that I found My parenting needs more of…

Outside time!! I read an amazing book called Last Child in the Woods (read it) and even though we spend lots of time outside already I feel you can never get enough! Richard Louv has an amazing website with great ideas for family activities with nature! I HIGHLY recommend checking out the author's website!

More tone watching.. this youtube video is a must for any parent!!



Keep your tones under control.. you have a powerful tool in your voice!

Hugs! Hug those babies! I have a goal to hug my kiddos at least 5 times a day each to start out with and WOW it makes a huge difference in your attitude and your child's! Here is an article that talks about all the amazing health benefits of hugs!

Story-time- In all the changes that come with this adventure of moving we have neglected our reading together time :( We are planning on starting back asap with reading before bed (by my hubby) Peter Pan! It’s a favorite of all of ours and perfect for sweet dreams!

I encourage you all to make a list of areas that you would like to improve in your parenting and share them… I am always looking for new ideas of ways that we can bond and enrich attatchment!

15 comments:

  1. All of those are current goals for us and I'm pleased to say we do pretty well on them:) One NEW goal is to really explain to my children how the things we put into our bodies and the things we do to our bodies affects us in the long-term. I also really want my kids to be aware that our body is a temple and if we are doing certain things, then we aren't worshipping the Creator with our bodies. We are to honor God with our WHOLE life, this includes the body!

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  2. All these things are way up there on my priority list. They still need so much work though! Thanks for the video... I am such a visual learner... I love it when people post videos.

    I totally agree with the "not giving in to fear" thing. Having three boys, I just cringe sometimes as I look out the window and see them playing outside. Climbing trees, riding their bikes, etc. but I know I need to just let them be boys and play wild.

    Thanks for these reminders... and I've gotta go check out that "free range kids" and the other website! :)

    BTW. Love your dreads you showed on your last post. They look good on you!

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  3. Yay! Great post! I totally agree. I have learned over 14 years of parenting many of these same things. On the inside I may be cringing and praying like mad, but on the outside I am their biggest cheerleader to venture into the unknown. We have strayed from our reading, even our family Bible reading time, too due to summer busy-ness..... good reminder to get back on track. Thanks my bloggy friend:)))

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  4. we've definitely become a culture of fear. america more so than uk or australia, and others. but they're following.
    of course, my one caveat with these sort of movements, is that we're all individuals with individual situations. if you live in the middle of london you don't go letting your kids out on the street!
    a friend recently was telling me how she was relaxing her parenting, even though she wasn't a particularly anxious parent. and then in the park across from her house a little girl was almost abducted but the abductor got scared off before he bungled her into his car. can't blame her for forgetting 'movements' and going with intuition first.

    but yes, in the main, i go for intuition first, and then a mindful appraisal of your parenting - AM i over-protective? which is what you're doing. and reassing areas where it seems there's too much helicoptoring. :)

    nice to meet you!

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  5. oh yes, i love your blog. i love what i learn from you. i've made it a priority since aiden's birth to read him three stories (board books, or other) every time he wakes up... so we do that, with one of them being the read and rhyme bible storybook in the mornings... i try to sing grace with him as he eats... and to teach him colors, or numbers or shapes each day... and we visit the outdoors a lot, and i try not to hamper his discovery too much-letting him taste more than most moms probably would... so he might learn and explore. i don't want to be the kind of mom to pull her kids down from trees (my husband still climbs trees!!)... i want to learn from my baby, while gently teaching him what i already know.

    thank you for helping me on this mama-path.

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  6. I have been listening to John Lynch speak on "wooing the new nature of our children"... and parenting in grace. It's really been speaking to me. I'm 23 years into the parenting scene... and have made many, many mistakes along the way. I hold fast to the promise that God restores the years the locusts have eaten.

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  7. such a good reminder! LOVE this post :)

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  8. i miss your posts! :) write more!

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  9. this is such an amazing post...loved the video and just put that book "Last child in the woods" on hold at our local library. So glad I stumbled upon your blog today!
    suzy

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  10. Thank you so much for posting this. I've been a little stressed out and unhappy with my parenting lately. This will help me.

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  11. i miss your posts! :) write more!

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  12. oh yes, i love your blog. i love what i learn from you. i've made it a priority since aiden's birth to read him three stories (board books, or other) every time he wakes up... so we do that, with one of them being the read and rhyme bible storybook in the mornings... i try to sing grace with him as he eats... and to teach him colors, or numbers or shapes each day... and we visit the outdoors a lot, and i try not to hamper his discovery too much-letting him taste more than most moms probably would... so he might learn and explore. i don't want to be the kind of mom to pull her kids down from trees (my husband still climbs trees!!)... i want to learn from my baby, while gently teaching him what i already know.

    thank you for helping me on this mama-path.

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