You may be thinking that this post is going to be about getting rid of friendships that are “toxic” but I’m sorry that’s not where I am headed in this friendship detox talk ☺
In regards to our friendships this “detox” has been more of a personal “me” detox than one that I impose upon my friends. How can “I” enrich my friendships and attract the friendships that I want to have into my life.
I tend to be somewhat of a loner and am surprised that I have any friends at all since I’m not a very good initiator of friendships. Some people are so natural at talking to others and adding to their friendship list but I tend to be in my own world much of the time.
I often see people and admire them saying in my head, “oh I would LOVE to get to know that person” yet I let the moment pass and miss out on so many wonderful opportunities and friendships!
Living in the RV has made me step out of my comfort zone in this area. We meet new people DAILY and with moving around we will not be living in one place for too long so I have had to be more intentional about meeting people and making friends.
So here is what I have found to be helpful… a challenge of sorts for people like me ☺
~ It starts with you/me! Learn to be confident in who you are, unafraid of what others are going to think of you! Yes I’m crazy, yet somewhat quiet. I have a nose ring that stands out. I dress in clothes that are comfy to me and may not be stylish but I like who I am! You must first learn how to accept yourself before you can expect others to accept you!
~ Look people in the eyes and smile.. this is guaranteed to bring you new friendships and help you to get out of living in “your own world.” Notice if someone needs help carrying something or needs a door opened. I often see mothers with young children trying to push a stroller and hold another little ones hand.. offer to open the door!
~ BE THE FRIEND that you want to attract! Talk to people! Don’t be afraid to give complements to those that catch your eye, young and old! Learn to be the initiator, invite those people that you wish you could get to know better over and GET TO KNOW them!
~ OK so now onto those “toxic” friendships that you had hoped to hear me say get rid of them… for some reason they have been placed into your journey here on earth SO embrace them! Father has placed them in your path for a reason, perhaps to teach you something, to mold you or stretch you OR to teach them something. Be who you are and if they continue to hang around then embrace them and walk with them in this journey until one of you turns to take a different path!