Thursday, July 29, 2010

Unschooling Gems

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My son is six and cannot read.
A year ago I stopped trying to make him.
For months it bothered me, his lack of desire and then it stopped.
He will learn in his own time my friends reminded me.

His passions are different from my girls...

He runs wild with the geese.
He dives into nine feet water, swimming without floats and without fear.
He works alongside his daddy and gets covered in dirt and grime.
He knows the names of every tool.
He takes apart his toys and puts them together again.
He whistles with his tongue.
He, compassionately loves on little ones.
He prefers water over juice or any other beverage.
He has an obsession with cowboy boots, particularly the red ones.
He protects us from creepy crawlies.
He hugs his mommy first thing in the morning, before anything else.


He, this little boy asked me today if I could teach him how to read!

He reminds me that God can do anything!


24 comments:

  1. Yay! Great post! They really do learn to read in their own time. Coon hunting magazines is what finally sparked the interest here for our oldest son. I've missed your posts:)) Glad to see you back!

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  2. Love that you allow him to take his time and put your focus on what he does well and not on the "missing links"...

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  3. Love this post!!! A wonderful reminder to look at ALL the things that our kids CAN do rather than what they can't. Also a reminder that all those milestones are given to us by the WORLD and we should wait on God's timing:)

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  4. this is beautiful prose, sister. you should link up with me today so others can read it too... you write.so.well. love e.

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  5. I think this is wonderful. My second son was a late reader too, and even when he started reading, most of the books were about bugs. I have a complete story about that :-) I don't thing he picked up a book to read for pleasure until he was about 16. Guess what? He just graduated from college with a gpa around 3.5, and he was an English major! Go figure :-) He obviously loves books now. I did a post about him last week for his 21st birthday. Your son sounds alot like him.
    Blessings,
    Marcia

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  6. six is still quite young for a boy to read. I love that you wrote about what he can do rather than worrying about what he can't :-)

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  7. wow! this is amazing...yesterday my 6 year old son said "mama, you know how you said i don,t have to read or do school until i want to? well when can you teach me to read?" WOOHOO! isn't it exciting when you wait until they are ready!?! we really should try and get together... blessings and happy reading :) xo

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  8. ummm tears. I needed this. Thank you Heather. HUGS mama!

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  9. Great post...Bella is just now starting to take interest in reading (which I now know is super normal...with 7 being the average "ready" age...although I think each child has their own magical "ready" age). We tried several "curriculum based" stuff before I decided to let it go. We're starting back in slowly...and I am amazed at how much she figures out on her own.

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  10. Makes me think how my hand in front of my face can block out even the sun! There's so much to appreciate in the uniqueness of each of our children. Thank God for His grace that pulls our hand away and blinds us with His glaring goodness. Thank you for visiting my blog today. I look forward to reading more of yours.

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  11. Great job with the educating! And, congratulations on keeping things positive and allowing your son to enjoy reading!




    I have a similar story. My youngest son went to Kindergarten and hated it. He wasn't ready, and the only thing he seemed to learn in Kindergarten was to hate learning. The next year I pulled the kids out of school. I home schooled, and I unschooled (depending upon the child). With this one I completely unschooled so he could learn to love learning. It didn't happen until the end of the year (just shortly before he turned 7)... but he suddenly showed intense interest in learning and reading; I jumped on providing opportunities for learning, and very quickly he turned into a voracious reader. :D Positive and patient support really works!

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  12. My oldest read at age 4. She just dove in and loved it.

    My second born had no interest. I tried to push a bit and then just left him alone. He's twelve now. And two years ago he read the whole Harry Potter series. All by himself.

    You are a good mama for recognizing how amazing your son is.

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  13. This reminds me so much of my middle girl.
    You are a wonderful Mama.
    Your boy has the most joy filled face.
    Thank you for sharing this beautiful post.

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  14. I am in awe of all of your sweet words! I am deeply encouraged!

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  15. What a beautiful poem you wrote about your son. What a delight he must be to you and your husband. We ask god for children but we never know what personality we will receive. Each with their own unique gifts. My first born son, had a problem learning to read,he wanted to read from right to left and the words were spaced to close together for his eyes to separate. The doctor said 'in time" Anyway my son wanted to read, so I bought at that time tapes that went with books and he would follow along for hours -- it got so he had the books memorized. It increased his vocabulary from a 1st grader to a 6th grader, eventually he learned to read but he was never the epic reader the younger son was who was reading advanced books in grade school of 1000 pages. But he has a phenomenal memory and works on computer languages, the irony is no one in his office understands the computer languages except him...This is a great topic you chose to write about. So much is misunderstood about child development and the brain and as /parents we get to figure it out without a manual and by the Grace of God.
    Joanny

    Thanks for stopping by my blog, it was lovely to have you.

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  16. I love that. :) my middle daughter doesn't like to sit and learn things the traditional way either but she is sounding out words and slowly learning to read all on her own. love it!

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  17. I like what gypsy said about not marking achievements by world's standards, but God's. So true! Also, I really love how much you love your boy. So evident. What a w0nderful post.

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  18. Dear One.... I loved the words you left me at my blog today. How you blessed my heart. Thank you!

    I'll be starting my 19th year of home schooling here in a few weeks. Each of my 5 children has learned at different paces... Your son sounds much like my oldest son.. who will turn 18 in a little over a week. He learned how to read at 7. He just wasn't ready... alot of times boys aren't. Sometimes they have a bit of a late start. It's not about intelligence it's about development. Boys develop at a different pace than girls. For example my 16 year old son's teeth are 2 years behind his age. His sister who is 3 years younger... her teeth are actually ahead of his right now. None of this has anything to do with intelligence.

    My son who learned to read at 7 graduated this year. He's a very bright, responsible young man who has a heart of gold.

    You are doing an amazing job of teaching your children. The things they are learning by osmosis will amaze you.

    Keep doing what you are doing!

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  19. YES! I am loving this-- you are protecting and preserving his childhood...and laying the foundations for a life long lover of learning:) CHEERS TO YOU!!! love, rebecca

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  20. KUDOS!!! I went the unschooling way after our son yelled at me saying he didn't want to "do school" anymore because reading was too hard! That was a year or so ago when he was 7! And to think I was very relaxed then with schooling! I just dropped it all together and about 6 months ago he said he wanted to fianlly know what words said and meant! He reads at his level now (or thereabouts) so I am so happy when I see other moms take that plunge into the unschooling abyss! It is so freeing and my kids are so much happier!!!!!!

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  21. My daughter has no want to read either. So the way I get her to read is by having her do her own computer work so she learns words like click here, play, close, cancel. haha. She is obsessed with national geographic so I think I'll just label a bunch of photos and see if she can memorize them, just for fun!

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  22. KUDOS!!! I went the unschooling way after our son yelled at me saying he didn't want to "do school" anymore because reading was too hard! That was a year or so ago when he was 7! And to think I was very relaxed then with schooling! I just dropped it all together and about 6 months ago he said he wanted to fianlly know what words said and meant! He reads at his level now (or thereabouts) so I am so happy when I see other moms take that plunge into the unschooling abyss! It is so freeing and my kids are so much happier!!!!!!

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  23. I love that. :) my middle daughter doesn't like to sit and learn things the traditional way either but she is sounding out words and slowly learning to read all on her own. love it!

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  24. Great post...Bella is just now starting to take interest in reading (which I now know is super normal...with 7 being the average "ready" age...although I think each child has their own magical "ready" age). We tried several "curriculum based" stuff before I decided to let it go. We're starting back in slowly...and I am amazed at how much she figures out on her own.

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