Saturday, April 2, 2011

How to Be Hospitable When Things Go Wrong?

Last night we had some friends over.

It was a good thing that they were long time friends...

wrong


I am still learning about hospitality and how it plays a part into our daily lives. I am still learning to have more of an open door policy and to embrace having others over even though my house is not perfect.

But what do you do when a little boy gets shot? What do you do when the little one was not yours?

OK sounds horrific huh? Let me back up a bit. The kids were playing, shooting targets with a BB gun (soda cans make the coolest targets). As the kids were on their way inside the house we hear a little one crying and find out that the gun was not on safety and a little dude got shot.

So what do you do when your guest's child gets shot?

You grab one of your vintage aprons, put ice in it and apologize as the blister appears.

You thank God that it was here, with these friends and not with newer ones because THEY understand you, they have experienced many hiccups with you along the way.

You take the gun away and try to console the shooter who is crying and screaming, "someone turned the safety off."

You try to lighten the mood with the victim by saying, "it looks like a fairy came down and kissed your shoulder." His the pre-teen brother then says, "Must of been a pretty aggressive fairy with teeth." You laugh with his mother about the evil fairies and put another date on the calendar for getting together.

You thank God for such great friends.

Do you have any stories of hospitality gone wrong?

32 comments:

  1. Oh my how scary! I'm so glad the little boy was ok and your friends were so understanding.

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  2. It sounds like something that would happen at our place:)) So glad he wasn't hurt worse, and as the hostess I know how bad you must have felt. One day you will probably all look back at it and laugh~ "Remember when......"

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  3. Hey Heather,
    I have been on the other side, my boy being the one who got the bb lodged in his head. Boys! How about having some friends over, letting the kids play outside only to have one come in bleeding from the neck after clotheslining the neighbors barbed wire fence? Yeah, that happened. Yikes, thank the Lord for friends who are gracious and understanding! (and most of all for His protection over our guys! )
    Keep on with the Open Door policy-it gets easier.

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  4. Hey Heather,
    I have been on the other side, my boy being the one who got the bb lodged in his head. Boys! How about having some friends over, letting the kids play outside only to have one come in bleeding from the neck after clotheslining the neighbors barbed wire fence? Yeah, that happened. Yikes, thank the Lord for friends who are gracious and understanding! (and most of all for His protection over our guys! )
    Keep on with the Open Door policy-it gets easier.

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  5. Oh my how scary! I'm so glad the little boy was ok and your friends were so understanding.

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  6. Usually one of our kids ends up throwing up after we leave so she (the mother) said she would take the BB wound over that any day :)

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  7. As the friend in this story I can say that Heather's serene attitude helped me out so much! I am the mother that freaks out and she was a very calming influence! Also, hearing how Cayla got shot with a BB gun at a yard sale made ours seems so much better(as well as lightening the mood considerably)!

    Now as the guest I can tell you that you need to not worry about that hospitality. When I left work today to head to my house I thought "Oh man I wish I was heading to Heather's house it was so calming". The house is a extremely inviting and cozy, you feel as if your in a cabin in the woods on vacation with great friends. I truly was disappointed on our way home to leave because I felt as thought I had gone on a mini vacay! But, hands down my favorite part was sitting in your beautiful calming room on your soft comfy bed and talking with my dear friend. Trust me when I say that your hospitality is steller!!! I can't wait to come back......even if it means vomit or gun shots!!! :)

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  8. Thank heaven for understanding FRIENDS! :D ...so glad the boy was OK.

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  9. You are too sweet friend and welcome over here ANYTIME! We will just leave the gun hidden in the closet :)

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  10. excuse my typos! I did not proof read it!!

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  11. I am so glad this was a bb gun. When I first started reading I thought the other. Non of us know what is going to happen with our children...sounds like you all made a heavy situation a little lighter. I am so glad no one was hurt. Beautiful friendships for sure. The bible study I have jsut started is in the book of Ruth. A friend of mine turned me on to it and as so happens it was a free down load onto my kindle as well. God is so good. If you are interested I can send it to you. Blessings on your week end and thank you so much for stopping by. I have been so encouraged over her and really enjoy your blog. =O) Hugs

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  12. I would love the link so that I can download it to my Kindle, thank you so much!

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  13. Years ago I would stress out majorly from things going wrong. Now that I am older, I see them as opportunities for all of us to learn what to do next. Accidents happen or I stick my foot in my mouth once in a while or do something embarrassing... it's just life. I -finally- realized, that it wasn't what happens it how it is handled :) Wish I could have read this 20 years ago and taken it to heart. Some lessons are learned the hard way.

    I like how you graciously handled what happened :)

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  14. oh my goodness! so glad he is okay! there were some angels working overtime protecting that little guy!

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  15. Karen is right. Gracious and understanding! Having 2 teens myself, many times things would go wrong. We extend grace to others on both sides, when our kids are guests and when we have guests. And accidents do happen. Our kids have broken bones ... it's all a part of parenting. Love the comment that someone wrote ... "boys." Yes, indeed! Great post, my friend!

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  16. I mean I have 2 teen boys, but 3 teen kids! :)

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  17. we have 3 boys- ya'll would fit right in from day one! lol new follower -

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  18. This is why I don't like having people over, and why I don't like going to others' homes. I know, goes against what you're trying to say here, but...I'm being honest.

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  19. Oh, my! I think we had a time a few summers ago when we had friends over and somehow their little girl got hurt. Thankfully they were understanding and it was an accident. I was glad they were so easy going. What a great post.

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  20. A good friend's daughter was being very aggressive with my big black dog's face/ She was hurting him, he was backing up and trying to get away he finally bark growled but at the same nipped the girl's face. We were both there and were both just telling her to stop and wow, I thought I was going to have to put my dog down, but she was so amazing about it saying that it was all her daughter's fault, she was hurting the dog, he didn't mean to hurt her. I am still amazed as there is a zero tolerance policy. If we weren't there and watching, it could have been a different result.....

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  21. Wow. I am so glad things turned out well. It is a difficult line to walk. It's great to have gracious and understanding friends!

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  22. Aren't you so grateful for understanding friends?! I know I am :)

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  23. Wow! That could have been bad, but it was really good that it happened with friends!

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  24. Rebekah {honeyandcheese}April 5, 2011 at 11:26 AM

    When I was a teenager I used to spend several days at a time helping a friend of ours with her family and their ministry. One weekend she brought me home and they stayed for dinner. Her youngest at the time was about 2 and was in a high chair at the table. He decided he was done, and put his feet on the edge of the table and pushed with all his might till the chair flew away from the table, tipping over. He hit his head on the sideboard and ended up with a decent-sized gash. My mom felt awful, but our company was gracious. Accidents happen and they're just as likely at home as they are at someone else's house. It's nice to have friends who think the same!

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  25. Thank you for this! Super encouraging!

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  26. Just today your post came to mind--such an encouragement. We had guests over, and one child got hurt--purely an accident during play, while I was sitting right there watching. And I, too, am so grateful for understanding friends.

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